(Los Angeles, CA / June 23, 2023) — Adult model, performer and disability advocate GoAskAlex is opening up to CBC Radio’s Now or Never hosts Ify Chiwetelu and Trevor Dineen about her life in the public eye as an ostomate in a new episode, “Afraid to Show it Off? Here’s How to Love the Skin You’re In”.
“In 2019 I underwent a life-changing surgery – I had a total abdominal colectomy, which means that my entire colon was removed. I had to have this done because I have ulcerative colitis, which is a form of inflammatory bowel disease, and it led to having an ileostomy, which is a permanent medical device on my abdomen,” explains Alex.
“It’s difficult when so much of your career is in front of a camera and you’re so used to looking at modeling photos of yourself and editing your own videos and seeing your own body from every possible angle, which is already a difficult thing to have to do, to be scrutinizing your body all the time. But then to see your body drastically change, whether that’s weight gain or a disability… seeing your body change and feeling like you don’t have any control over that is a difficult thing.
“Waking up from surgery and having an ileostomy was terrifying and also a huge relief, because I’d been in pain for so long, so there was an aspect of it that was really a relief and it was really freeing to finally feel like ‘Okay, I’m cured from this disease’, in a way… on the other side of that, there was this insecurity about my new body and this fear of how I’d be perceived, fear that no one would ever find me attractive again – professionally or in my personal life, to find a partner, to be romantic, to be sexual… and there wasn’t really any support for that.
“When you have these surgeries done, they give you a book of pamphlets on what it’s going to be like to have an ostomy, and different medical devices, and there are some things they don’t talk to you about… one of them being sexuality. It’s an assumption that disabled people are not having sex, or that we wouldn’t want to have sex, or that nobody would want to have sex with us because our bodies are not sexual, and they’re gross or wrong or damaged… and that’s just simply not true.
“I didn’t feel like I was represented or that I had body-positive role models growing up, and as a woman with a disability I want young people to have those role models. I want to help create a world where people… have a better relationship to their bodies and can accept themselves as they are. So even though I can fully admit that it’s still a process for me, I think that the act of doing these things and setting this example is also part of what is healing me along that journey.
“A lot of people recommend saying affirmations in the mirror: ‘I love myself, I am strong, I am intelligent, I am beautiful’… but I think for me, an affirmation of ‘I accept myself’ has been far more impactful on my life.”
Get to know GoAskAlex at GoAskAlexOnline.com, Twitter and Instagram, as well as OnlyFans, TikTok and ManyVids.
ABOUT GOASKALEX:
GoAskAlex is an adult model, onscreen performer and sex educator with the distinction of being the industry’s first-ever ostomate since receiving a life-changing surgery in 2019, diverting her small intestine out through her abdomen, necessitating the need to wear a permanent medical device.
The auburn-haired British Columbia, Canada native – who launched her adult career in 2014 as a webcam model and online companion – has since taken the opportunity to use her high-profile platform to advocate for disabled and underrepresented bodies in adult media.
GoAskAlex currently sits atop the 1% of content creators on OnlyFans, is a top attraction over at
SuicideGirls.com and ManyVids as well, selling her original video clips for her many thousands of fans on the popular platforms and amassing nearly 100,000 followers to her ever-growing TikTok page.
She has since been featured in XBIZ Magazine, posing for the cover as the trade publication’s first-ever model with an ostomy, as well as Hustler E-Magazine to promote her inspiring Disabled Sex Workers Calendar, and the CBC. Alex also won 2020’s XBIZ Cam Award for Best Inked Model and 2021’s XBIZ Best Cam Model and has had her writing published by well-known mainstream publications such as VICE.
GoAskAlex occupies the traditional, ancestral and unceded territory of the Squamish Nation, Tsleil-Waututh Nation and Musqueam Nation. To learn more, visit GoAskAlexOnline.com and follow her on Twitter and Instagram.
